为母之道,的确不能光凭本能,应当融入更多的理性成分。就拿性格来说,孩子同你可能有着天壤之别:你喜欢安安静静,孩子却风风火火;你追求含蓄,孩子却热情奔放;或者你喜欢旅游运动,广交朋友,孩子却偏爱一个人待在家里,捧一本书打发时光;你说话喜欢爽快,孩子却喜欢说一句留半句,让你颇费猜想。碰到这样的孩子,如果做母亲的颇为理智,或者有着足够的宽容度,那么还好,她甚至会欣赏孩子与自己 As the mother’s way, it is indeed impossible to instinctively integrate more rational elements. In terms of personality, children may not be the same with you: you like peace and quiet, the children are hard-edged; you pursue subtle, children are passionate; or you like to travel and make friends, the children prefer a person to be At home, holding a book to pass the time; you like to speak readily, but children like to say a half leave a sentence, so you have a lot of conjecture. Encounter such a child, if the mother is quite sensible, or have enough tolerance, so good, she would even appreciate the children and themselves