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Whilst most of our friends are there for us through thick① and thin and can always be relied on for a good time, we’ve all encountered the toxic friend.
1.Who initiates② most of the contact?
Who initiates most of the contact is an important barometer③ in any friendship.
If you’re mostly initiating contact, or always having to make the effort, start taking a step back to see what happens. You’ll easily see which friends are meant to be in your life versus④ those who aren’t.
2.How do they make you feel?
How you feel in their company and how you feel once you’ve parted company is a great way to tell if you’re in a toxic⑤ friendships.
If you’re left feeling drained, angry or even resentful, release the friendship.
3.Do they add or subtract⑥ to your life?
Do you dread meeting up with them? If there’s no fun left in your friendship, it’s time to break up.
Great friendships actually boost your immune system, while toxic friendships leave you feeling off balance.
4.Do they support your life goals?
Good friends want the best for you and are your biggest cheerleaders. Toxic friends will act jealous, mean spirited and may even try to sabotage your hopes and dreams.
虽然大多数朋友都能有福同享、有难同当,都能让我们依靠,但是我们都曾遇到过“有毒”的朋友。
1.谁联系得最多?
谁联系得最多是所有友谊中的一个晴雨表。
如果大多数时候都是你联系别人,或者你总是努力这样做的话,你可以先停下来,然后看看会发生些什么。你会很容易地看出哪些朋友值得你交往,哪些则不值得。
2.他们让你感觉怎么样?
和他们在一起时你是什么感觉,和他们分开时你是什么感觉?这是区分你的友谊是否有毒的很好方法。
如果你感觉没意思、愤怒甚至是怨恨的话,就结束这段友谊吧。
3.他们让你的生活多了或者少了些什么东西吗?
你害怕和他们见面吗?如果你的友谊中没有乐趣了,那就是时候结束这段友谊了。
伟大的友谊实际上会促进你的免疫系統,而有毒的友谊则会让你感觉失去平衡。
4.他们支持你的人生目标吗?
好朋友总是为你着想,也是你最大的支持者。有毒的朋友却总是很嫉妒、刻薄,甚至可能会试图破坏你的梦想和希望。
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1.Who initiates② most of the contact?
Who initiates most of the contact is an important barometer③ in any friendship.
If you’re mostly initiating contact, or always having to make the effort, start taking a step back to see what happens. You’ll easily see which friends are meant to be in your life versus④ those who aren’t.
2.How do they make you feel?
How you feel in their company and how you feel once you’ve parted company is a great way to tell if you’re in a toxic⑤ friendships.
If you’re left feeling drained, angry or even resentful, release the friendship.
3.Do they add or subtract⑥ to your life?
Do you dread meeting up with them? If there’s no fun left in your friendship, it’s time to break up.
Great friendships actually boost your immune system, while toxic friendships leave you feeling off balance.
4.Do they support your life goals?
Good friends want the best for you and are your biggest cheerleaders. Toxic friends will act jealous, mean spirited and may even try to sabotage your hopes and dreams.
虽然大多数朋友都能有福同享、有难同当,都能让我们依靠,但是我们都曾遇到过“有毒”的朋友。
1.谁联系得最多?
谁联系得最多是所有友谊中的一个晴雨表。
如果大多数时候都是你联系别人,或者你总是努力这样做的话,你可以先停下来,然后看看会发生些什么。你会很容易地看出哪些朋友值得你交往,哪些则不值得。
2.他们让你感觉怎么样?
和他们在一起时你是什么感觉,和他们分开时你是什么感觉?这是区分你的友谊是否有毒的很好方法。
如果你感觉没意思、愤怒甚至是怨恨的话,就结束这段友谊吧。
3.他们让你的生活多了或者少了些什么东西吗?
你害怕和他们见面吗?如果你的友谊中没有乐趣了,那就是时候结束这段友谊了。
伟大的友谊实际上会促进你的免疫系統,而有毒的友谊则会让你感觉失去平衡。
4.他们支持你的人生目标吗?
好朋友总是为你着想,也是你最大的支持者。有毒的朋友却总是很嫉妒、刻薄,甚至可能会试图破坏你的梦想和希望。
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