如果说,有人误会你,却不让你辩解;或者,某人言者无心,但你却听者有意,对他大加抨击;那么你大概很清楚:讲话真是一门艺术。无法表达或是表达错误会有昂贵代价:内疚、气愤或自尊失落。这还不包括伤害别人,让别人伤心。琳达在加州主持了一个为妇女而办的训练课,她每天都能见到因为表达不当而引起的情绪失衡。"妇女来我们这里上课,因为她们担心把心中的话全盘说出。她们有许多苦恼,觉得沮丧、苦闷、焦虑。有时候她们会嘲笑、挖苦别人。还有一种类型,那就是很具对抗性。她们 If someone misunderstood you but did not excuse you; or if someone was speechless, but you listened intently and attacked him; then you probably knew quite clearly: speech is really an art. Inability to express or express mistakes can be costly: guilt, anger, or loss of self-esteem. This does not include hurting others and leaving others sad. Linda chaired a training class for women in California, where she sees daily emotional imbalances caused by inappropriate expressions. Women come to our class because they are worried about speaking out their words in full, and they have a lot of distress, frustration, depression and anxiety, sometimes they laugh at others and scoff at them.Another type is confrontation .they