一项针对青少年的调查表明:在他们烦恼或苦恼时,讲心里话的首选对象是母亲(占29%),几乎占相同比例的是“和谁也不说”(28.9%);其次的选择分别是校内同学(18.5%)、校外朋友(9.7%)、班主任老师(7.5%)、父亲(5.9%),而选择课任老师的仅为0.5%。父母强于老师,同学多于老师。作为教育工作者,老师尚不能成为青少年能进真心话的“朋友”。专家认为, A survey of adolescents showed that mothers (29%) were the first to say when they were annoyed or distressed, while “almost no” (28.9%) said the same thing (28.9%); second choice (18.5%), friends outside of school (9.7%), teachers (7.5%), and fathers (5.9%) respectively, compared with only 0.5% of teachers who choose to work as teachers. Parents stronger than teachers, students more than teachers. As an educator, teachers can not yet become “friends” who can advance their hearts and minds among young people. Experts think,