我有个表妹,似乎读了我至今所写的文章。她在电话中对我说了这样一件事。“我从双亲那儿听说,当年姑父花了整整三年的时间才使姑母答允了婚事。”这位表妹是我舅父最小的女儿。事实上,父亲在第一位妻子过世之后只过了三年独身生活。也就是说,父亲为了娶得最初的妻子花了三年,为了娶得第二个妻子,又再等了三年。表妹的话,使我想起,母亲将自己在结婚仪式上的照片给我们看的时候,说话的 I have a cousin who seems to have read the essay I wrote so far. She told me something on the phone. “I heard from my parents that it took three years for her uncle to allow her aunt to agree to a marriage.” The cousin is my youngest daughter. In fact, only three years after his first wife passed away, his father lived alone. In other words, it took Father three years to marry her first wife and another three years to marry her second wife. The words of my cousin reminded me that my mother spoke to me at the wedding photo