家庭民主的实质可归纳为一条:给孩子以充分表现的机会。无论是优点,还是缺点,长处、短处都应让他们充分表现出来。正像一棵树,给它以足够的空间生长,才能观察它、了解它的成长情况,才能有针对性地适时浇水、施肥、打杈、修剪。而有些家长,总想以自己设想的模型或框子,把孩子套进去,其结果适得其反。例如,有不少家长担心孩子节食、 The essence of family democracy can be summed up as one: the opportunity to give full expression to children. Both strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses should make them fully demonstrated. Just like a tree, give it enough space to grow, to observe it, to understand its growth, in order to timely and appropriate watering, fertilization, twigs, pruning. Some parents, however, always want to put their children in the model or frame they have conceived, and the result is counterproductive. For example, many parents worry about their children’s diet,