对于什么是爱,我们最能想到的就是努力对一个人好,把对方视为自己的生命,甚至愿意付出自己的生命。可是,这种关怀真的是爱吗?我们通常认为倾其所有的关怀就是爱。这种爱包括无微不至的关怀与问候、时时刻刻的陪伴与提醒、省吃俭用给予无尽的财富、经常性地表达爱之语等。然而,这种爱并不是所有时候都被珍惜,甚至有的时候不被接受。于是,便有人开始纠结:我对你这么好,你为什么不懂得珍惜?其实,这种爱在亲子关系中很常见。我见过一个妈妈为了照顾孩子,工 What we love most about what is love is trying to be good for one, treating each other as our own life, and even willing to pay our own lives. However, this care is really love? We usually think that all the care is love. Such kind of love includes meticulous care and greetings, constant companionship and reminder, thrift, endless gift of wealth, and regular expression of love language. However, this love is not always cherished, sometimes even unacceptable. So, someone began to tangle: I am so good for you, why do not you cherish? In fact, this love is very common in parent-child relationship. I have seen a mother in order to take care of children, workers