记得在部队刚刚当上团级单位政委的时候,有位老领导跟我谈心说,职务高了,找你办事的人会多起来,不能有求必应,啥事都答应人家,要学会拒绝。当时,我还有点儿不以为然:拒绝还用学,不该答应的事情不答应就是了,有什么难的!可是,不久前发生的一件事,使我深感老领导的话乃经验之谈了。那是在一年一度的志愿兵转改之际,一位老同学打电话给我,要求把他在我部服役的内弟转为志愿兵。当时上级只给一个转改名额,而他内弟按标准条件衡量相差甚远。答应他呢,势必引起众多官兵的不满,党委会上也难以通过;不答应呢,又担心影响同学之间多年来的情谊。怎么办?思来想去难以下 I remember when the army was just a member of the political commissar at the regimental level, an old leader told me that my position was high and people looking for yourselves would be overwhelmed. At that time, I was still a little disapproved: refusing to still learn, what should not be promised is not allowed, what is difficult! However, something happened not long ago, made me feel very old, the words of leadership is the experience of the talk . It was on the occasion of the annual voluntary change, an old classmate called me and asked to turn his brother serving in our ministry into a volunteer. At that time, only one superior place to change the quota, and his brother a far cry from the standard conditions. It is bound to arouse the dissatisfaction of many officers and soldiers at the party committees. It is hard to pass the party committees. If they do not agree, they will also fear affecting the friendship between the students for many years. What to do?