故事要从去年秋天说起,我发现班上的学生L(女,14岁,初二年级,平时学习成绩较差)近来经常坐在教室角落里独处,很难融入集体。几位老师也相继向我反映,在与该生交流谈心时,她也总是采取消极、回避的态度,流露出较强的自卑感。另据同学普遍反映,L性格多疑、胆小,不愿、甚至主动回避参加集体活动。后通过与L的单独谈话,我逐渐意识到,她从小成长在一个缺少爱、缺乏沟通的家庭,父母为初中文化水平,且早已下岗,为生计常年在外奔波,对L的管教方法简单粗暴,导致亲子双方矛盾逐渐激化,L曾离家出走。由于长期缺少关爱,她逐渐形成孤独、自卑、厌学、焦虑情绪,学习成绩长期不佳。 From the fall of last year, I discovered that the students in the class L (female, 14 years old, with poor academic performance in the past) often sit alone in the corner of the classroom, and it is difficult to integrate into the group. Several teachers have also reflected to me in succession. When communicating with the student, she always takes a negative and avoidance attitude and shows a strong sense of inferiority. According to other students, L’s personality is often suspicious, timid, unwilling, or even actively avoiding participation in group activities. Later, through a separate talk with L, I gradually realized that she had grown up in a family that lacked love and lacked communication. Her parents had junior high school education and she had already been laid off. She lived outside for a long time, and her management of L was simple and crude. As a result, the contradictions between the parents and the children gradually intensified, and L once left home. Due to her lack of love for a long time, she gradually developed loneliness, low self-esteem, tired of learning, anxiety, and poor academic performance.