今天,如果你有一个女儿,你可能会经常担心。因为现代生活既复杂又混乱:各种新鲜的刺激、发达的媒体、离婚、单亲家庭、继父母、僻静的街道,所有这些都让人烦心。但是,让活跃的女儿遵循你定下的规矩是一个很大的挑战。如果我们不设置明确、适当的规矩,女儿会在没有充分准备的情况下作出选择。这些看起来是自由的选择,会很快变成她们的牢狱:其实她们并没有作出人生选择,只是盲目地对外界作出反应。和男孩最大的不同是,尽管女孩也需要知道规则,但是她们更关注的是和别人之间的关系,而不是那些规则的内容本身。 Today, if you have a daughter, you may often worry. Because modern life is both complicated and chaotic: all kinds of fresh excitement, well-developed media, divorce, single-parent families, stepfathering, quiet streets, all of which are troubling. However, having active daughters follow the rules you set is a big challenge. If we do not set clear and appropriate rules, my daughter will make a choice without adequate preparation. These seemingly free choices quickly become prisoners of their own: in fact, they have not made a living choice, they just blindly respond to the outside world. The biggest difference with boys is that although girls also need to know the rules, they are more concerned with relationships with others than with the content of those rules themselves.