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我与老伴一起生活40多年了,曾经长期两地分居,当时老伴既要工作,又要承担养儿育女的重担,日子虽然过得比较辛苦,但总体上看还算高兴。我退休后,由忙人变成了闲人,便渐渐寄情于诗词花卉。先我退休的老伴却对写诗养花不感兴趣,对我沉迷于此屡有微词。而我却我行我素,甚至愈发痴迷。久而久之我俩竟闹起矛盾来了,有时还颇激烈,结果弄得两人都极不愉快。近日我读到梁实秋先生一文谈他处理夫妻关系的艺术之道,如获至宝,依而用之,果然奏效。我把梁先生文章中的内容概括为“三从四得”。
I lived with my wife for more than 40 years and lived apart for a long time. At that time, my husband wanted both work and childcare. However, despite having a hard time, his life was generally happy. After I retired, I became an idler from a busy person and gradually became a fan of poetry and flower. My husband, who first retired, was not interested in writing poems and flowers. And I have my own way, even more obsessed. As time passes, the two of us came out of contradictions, sometimes quite intense, resulting in both extremely unpleasant. Recently, I read a paper by Mr LIANG Shi-chiu about his art of dealing with the relationship between husband and wife. I summarize the contents of Mr. Liang’s article as “three from four get”.