随着社会的发展,文明的进步,以往“棍棒底下出孝子”、“不打不成材”的落后观念和行为愈来愈少见了。然而,一种“软性”的、实施了别人摸不着看不到的惩罚——心罚,在一些幼儿园和家庭却有愈演愈烈之势:不平等地歧视儿童,剥夺儿童的某种权利,不尊重儿童的人格,可以说这些现象在儿童的学习和生活中处处发生着…… With the development of society and the progress of civilization, the backward concepts and behaviors of “filial sons and drowsiers under the sticks” and “no fighting for no gains” have become increasingly rare. However, a “soft” implementation of punitive penalties that others can not see - heart punishments - is growing in some kindergartens and families: unequal discrimination against children and deprivation of children of certain rights, and not Respecting children’s personality, we can say that these phenomena occur everywhere in children’s learning and life.