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Why We Need Kiss
T he average person will spend about 20，160 minutes of his or her life kissing.
A nd the world record for the longest continuous kiss is 58hrs， 35mins and 58secs， But why do we kiss？
Why did brains and bodies that love kissing become so common？ Well， a popular story holds that pacman’s shape was inspired by the shape of a pizza with a slice missing， but Toru Iwatani， the creator of pacman， admitted that was only half true. Paceman’s shape was also inspired by rounding up the shape of the J apanese character of a mouth. And its mouth and pacman’s favorite activity， eating， which together bring us closer to the heart of a kiss.
Any infant could have seen those benefits coming from a mile away， even though an infant’s vision isn’t that great. From birth to four months， babies can only focus on things about eight to teninches away from their face. which not surprisingly is about the distance to their mothers’ face while breast-feeding.
Anecdotally， what’s more likely is that the very act of rubber necking to see who’s watching causes people to look up and for your gazes to attach. But what about attachment when no one is watching？
In 1955.A .E.Fisher conducted an ex periment on puppies. His team separated puppies into three groups： members of the first group were treated kindly every time they approach to a researcher； members of the second group were punished for approaching the researchers and puppies in the third group were randomly t reat ed kindly or punished， they grew up never knowing what to expect， T heir world was not a world of kindness or punishment， but rather， one of uncertainty.
W hat ’s really chilling is that the st udy f ound t hat that group， the third group of puppies round upbeing the most at t ached t o t he res earc hers . The third group loved the researchers the strongest and was the most dependent upon them.
Guy Murchie call this"T he polarit y principle". S t ress， including t he ment al stress of uncertainty is ingredient in attachment or love. And perhaps even manifestations of hatred is polar opposite somehow enhance love. Uncertainty， psychologically can lead to some of the greatest feeling of attachment and dependence.
Good things and bad things in our lives often seem radom and out of our control. So it’s no surprise that we often react with blind， love and acceptance， in the face of unfair existance， because what else should we supposed to do？ We are that third group of puppies， But inv est igat ing uncert aint y， conquering it， so as to make the best decisions possible is advantageous， S o ov ert ime， lif e has f av ored activities that turn uncertainty into knowledge. Not every person out there is the best mate for you. But if you didn’t matter which one you picked， A kiss， a taste test wouldn’t be necessary， And it wouldn’t need to feel so good or bring us so much pleasure.
So go out there and kiss someone today.
平均每人一生中亲吻的时间为20160分钟。
世界持续接吻时间最长的纪录为58小时35分58秒，但是我们为什么要接吻？
为什么人类热爱接吻是如此的常见，在一则流行故事中提到吃豆人的形状灵感正来源于缺了一块的比萨饼，但是吃豆人之父岩谷彻承认这并非完全正确，吃豆人的形状灵感也来源于一个闭合的形状，也就是日文中“口”的形状。吃豆人的嘴以及它最喜欢的行为吃，让我们逐渐接近了“吻”的核心要义。
任何一个婴儿都能看到从远方来的好处，即使婴儿的视力并非如此的好，从降生到四个月大时婴儿只能将注意力集中在距离自己脸8～10英尺远的东西上，在意料中的是这和母乳喂养时婴儿和母亲脸庞的距离相近。
有趣的是，人们伸长脖子东张西望来寻找盯着他们的人反倒造成了人们目光的交会，那么那种无人注视时的“依恋”又是什么？
1955年，A.E.在小狗身上进行了一项实验，他将狗分成了三组：第一组的狗狗们在接近研究者时受到了良好的待遇，第二组在接近研究者时受到了惩罚，第三组的狗狗们被善待和惩罚完全是随机的，们们在完全不知道能即将发生什么的情况下长大，这个世界并非尽是善行或是惩罚，而是一个充满未知的世界。
让我们震惊的是研究者发现是那一组，是第三组狗狗们最终对研究者的依赖最强，第三组狗狗们对研究者们的爱最深，也是最依赖他们的一组。
Guy Murchie称此为“反向原理”，压力包括心理压力和不确定性是依恋和爱的原料之一，可能表现出的仇恨也会南辕北辙在一定程度上加深爱意，不确定性在心理上会产生一些最深最强烈的依恋和依赖感 。
我们生活中好事坏事看似随机，也在我们控制范围之外，因此我们常做出盲从热爱或是接受的反应不足为奇，当我们面对所存在的不公平时，因为除此之外我们还能做什么呢？
我们就是那第三组小狗，而深究不确定之事征服它以做出最好的决定本身对我们有利，渐渐地生命中的大多事情都会将不确定性转化成知识，并非所有人都是最适合你的伴侣。但如果你并不在意选择哪个的话，若一个吻一个口味测试并非必要，并且并不需要这个吻感觉多好或是带来多少乐趣的话。
那么今天就请走出房门给某个人一个吻吧。
T he average person will spend about 20，160 minutes of his or her life kissing.
A nd the world record for the longest continuous kiss is 58hrs， 35mins and 58secs， But why do we kiss？
Why did brains and bodies that love kissing become so common？ Well， a popular story holds that pacman’s shape was inspired by the shape of a pizza with a slice missing， but Toru Iwatani， the creator of pacman， admitted that was only half true. Paceman’s shape was also inspired by rounding up the shape of the J apanese character of a mouth. And its mouth and pacman’s favorite activity， eating， which together bring us closer to the heart of a kiss.
Any infant could have seen those benefits coming from a mile away， even though an infant’s vision isn’t that great. From birth to four months， babies can only focus on things about eight to teninches away from their face. which not surprisingly is about the distance to their mothers’ face while breast-feeding.
Anecdotally， what’s more likely is that the very act of rubber necking to see who’s watching causes people to look up and for your gazes to attach. But what about attachment when no one is watching？
In 1955.A .E.Fisher conducted an ex periment on puppies. His team separated puppies into three groups： members of the first group were treated kindly every time they approach to a researcher； members of the second group were punished for approaching the researchers and puppies in the third group were randomly t reat ed kindly or punished， they grew up never knowing what to expect， T heir world was not a world of kindness or punishment， but rather， one of uncertainty.
W hat ’s really chilling is that the st udy f ound t hat that group， the third group of puppies round upbeing the most at t ached t o t he res earc hers . The third group loved the researchers the strongest and was the most dependent upon them.
Guy Murchie call this"T he polarit y principle". S t ress， including t he ment al stress of uncertainty is ingredient in attachment or love. And perhaps even manifestations of hatred is polar opposite somehow enhance love. Uncertainty， psychologically can lead to some of the greatest feeling of attachment and dependence.
Good things and bad things in our lives often seem radom and out of our control. So it’s no surprise that we often react with blind， love and acceptance， in the face of unfair existance， because what else should we supposed to do？ We are that third group of puppies， But inv est igat ing uncert aint y， conquering it， so as to make the best decisions possible is advantageous， S o ov ert ime， lif e has f av ored activities that turn uncertainty into knowledge. Not every person out there is the best mate for you. But if you didn’t matter which one you picked， A kiss， a taste test wouldn’t be necessary， And it wouldn’t need to feel so good or bring us so much pleasure.
So go out there and kiss someone today.
平均每人一生中亲吻的时间为20160分钟。
世界持续接吻时间最长的纪录为58小时35分58秒，但是我们为什么要接吻？
为什么人类热爱接吻是如此的常见，在一则流行故事中提到吃豆人的形状灵感正来源于缺了一块的比萨饼，但是吃豆人之父岩谷彻承认这并非完全正确，吃豆人的形状灵感也来源于一个闭合的形状，也就是日文中“口”的形状。吃豆人的嘴以及它最喜欢的行为吃，让我们逐渐接近了“吻”的核心要义。
任何一个婴儿都能看到从远方来的好处，即使婴儿的视力并非如此的好，从降生到四个月大时婴儿只能将注意力集中在距离自己脸8～10英尺远的东西上，在意料中的是这和母乳喂养时婴儿和母亲脸庞的距离相近。
有趣的是，人们伸长脖子东张西望来寻找盯着他们的人反倒造成了人们目光的交会，那么那种无人注视时的“依恋”又是什么？
1955年，A.E.在小狗身上进行了一项实验，他将狗分成了三组：第一组的狗狗们在接近研究者时受到了良好的待遇，第二组在接近研究者时受到了惩罚，第三组的狗狗们被善待和惩罚完全是随机的，们们在完全不知道能即将发生什么的情况下长大，这个世界并非尽是善行或是惩罚，而是一个充满未知的世界。
让我们震惊的是研究者发现是那一组，是第三组狗狗们最终对研究者的依赖最强，第三组狗狗们对研究者们的爱最深，也是最依赖他们的一组。
Guy Murchie称此为“反向原理”，压力包括心理压力和不确定性是依恋和爱的原料之一，可能表现出的仇恨也会南辕北辙在一定程度上加深爱意，不确定性在心理上会产生一些最深最强烈的依恋和依赖感 。
我们生活中好事坏事看似随机，也在我们控制范围之外，因此我们常做出盲从热爱或是接受的反应不足为奇，当我们面对所存在的不公平时，因为除此之外我们还能做什么呢？
我们就是那第三组小狗，而深究不确定之事征服它以做出最好的决定本身对我们有利，渐渐地生命中的大多事情都会将不确定性转化成知识，并非所有人都是最适合你的伴侣。但如果你并不在意选择哪个的话，若一个吻一个口味测试并非必要，并且并不需要这个吻感觉多好或是带来多少乐趣的话。
那么今天就请走出房门给某个人一个吻吧。