孩子与祖父母之间的纽带是独特和珍贵的。我们凭直觉了解这一点,而最近的研究也证实了这一点。长期研究美国儿童、父母和祖父母关系的亚瑟·科恩哈伯说:“孩子与祖父母之间的关系是一种最纯洁,心理复杂性最小的人类之爱。由于祖父母通常不对孙子孙女负直接责任,他们的自尊心不会同孙辈们的自尊心混淆起来,他们的爱较少附有条件。” 科恩哈伯认为,当父母犹豫畏缩时,祖父母能够提供一种情感上的安全网。他们以讲故事、唱歌、做 The bonds between children and grandparents are unique and precious. We know this intuitively, and recent research confirms this. Arthur Cohen Haber, who has long studied the relationship between American children, parents and grandparents, said: “The relationship between children and grandparents is one of the purest and most complex of human beings, and since the grandparents are not usually directly responsible for their grandchildren Responsibility, their self-esteem will not be confused with their grandchildren’s self-esteem, and their love is less conditional. ”Cohen Haber believes grandparents can provide an emotional safety net when their parents hesitate. They tell stories, sing, do