1、夸奖用得太多或太少 “你把你的脏衣服放盆里啦?哦,你真乖!”为了培养孩子的自尊心,父母常常会滥用夸奖语言。然而,心理学家们认为,一个依赖夸奖的孩子往往不会追求令他自己满意的目的。他也许会从有规律的日常琐事中寻求父母慷慨的赞扬,或者没有更多的夸奖就不能完成一个任务。过度的批评也是有害的。如果你一味地挑孩子的短处,他就会变得对自己缺乏信心。夸奖和批评应交替使用,而且夸奖的使用率应比批评多3倍。太多就会显得虚假,太少就会显得过于严 1, Praise used too much or too little “You put your dirty clothes in the bowl? Oh, you are good!” In order to develop children’s self-esteem, parents often abuse the compliment language. However, psychologists think that a child who relies on compliments often does not pursue his own purpose. He may seek the generosity of his parents from his routine routine, or fail to accomplish a task without more compliment. Excessive criticism is also harmful. If you blindly pick the child’s weaknesses, he becomes less confident of himself. Praise and criticism should be used interchangeably, and the complimenting rate of use should be three times more than criticism. Too much will appear fake, too little will seem too strict