中国有句流传时间悠久、流传范围很广的古话:“可怜天下父母心”。随着时代的发展,科技的进步,中国的父母从来未像今天这样全神贯注地爱孩子,“望子成龙”、“望女成凤”的愿望从来未像今天这样强烈。然而,有些父母种豆却未必能得豆,不少孩子向着父母意愿完全相反的方向发展。有的孩子离家出走,有的花季少年自杀,更有的反过来伤害自己的父母。究其原因,就是有些父母仍然沿用着传统的、落后的教子观念和方法,总想按照自己的方式来改变孩子,设计孩子,塑造孩子。面对这样的父母,我们要问一句:作为父母,你是否想到随着时代的变化来改变一下自己呢?你的思想观念,你的素质水平,你的教子方法能适应做一个现代父母的要求吗? There is an old Chinese saying that has spread over a long period of time and has a wide range of spread: “Pity the heart of parents in the world.” With the development of the times and the advancement of science and technology, Chinese parents have never been so devoted to love their children as they are today. The aspiration of “looking for a son” and “turning a woman into a feng shui” have never been as strong as today. However, some parents may not be able to obtain beans while growing beans, and many children develop in exactly the opposite direction toward their parents’ wishes. Some children run away from home, and some youth commit suicide, and in turn hurt their own parents. The reason is that some parents still follow the traditional and backward ideas and methods of the godfather. They always want to change their children according to their own ways, design their children and mold their children. In the face of such parents, we would like to ask: As a parent, do you think of change with the times to change yourself? Your ideas, your level of quality, your teaching methods can adapt to the requirements of a modern parents ?