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案例:琳琳还有一个月就要大学毕业了,父母给她在老家找了一份不错的工作,回老家似乎成了定局。交往两年的男朋友,也已经在上海找到了一份见习工作,而且很喜欢这份工作。这段时间,男朋友一直在挽留她,让她不要回老家,和他一起留在这个城市、一起奋斗。琳琳很矛盾,一边是父母的安排和期望,一边是两年的感情,如何选择呢?如果回老家,有一份体面的工作,应该会是很安逸的生活,但是男朋友不会跟她回她家所在的小城市;两年的感情,充满浪漫和幻想的初恋,美好的一切或许都只能放在回忆中。如果不回老家,留在这个大城市,她至今也找不到好工作,微薄的工资要养活自己还要租房,可以想象生存一定很艰难,更别想在这里买房、安家,过安逸舒适的生活了。要是自己回老家工作,男朋友留在这个大城市拼搏,分隔两地,这段感情还能维持吗?还有可能和男朋友一起走进婚姻的殿堂吗?分居两地的生活会幸福快乐吗?这一切都让琳琳非常焦虑、烦躁,做什么事情都没兴趣,对男朋友的感情也忽冷忽热,很是矛盾,不知道该怎么办了。
Case: Linlin graduated from college in another month, and her parents gave her a good job in her hometown. Returning home seems to be a foregone conclusion. Boyfriend dating two years, has also found a Shanghai trainee work, and I really like the job. During this time, my boyfriend has been retaining her, so she do not go home, and stay with him in this city, work together. Linlin is very contradictory. On the one hand, she has parents’ arrangements and expectations. On the other hand, she has two years of feelings. How to choose? If there is a decent job in my hometown, I should be a very comfortable life, but my boyfriend will not tell her back Home where the small city; two years of love, full of romantic and fantasy first love, everything beautiful may only be placed in memory. If you do not go home, stay in this big city, she still can not find a good job, meager wages to support themselves but also rent, you can imagine survival must be very difficult, but do not want to buy a house here, settle down, comfortable and comfortable life It’s If I go back to work in my hometown, my boyfriend will stay in this big city to fight and separate the two places. Will this feeling be maintained? Will it be possible to enter the marriage hall together with my boyfriend? Will the life in the two places be happier? Everything makes Linlin very anxious, irritable, have no interest in what to do, the feelings of boyfriend also hot and cold, it is a contradiction, I do not know what to do.