中国的孩子从小被要求最多的是“听话”。他们较早接受的观念之一是“淘气不好”。因此中国孩子最大的缺点是“独立性差”。然而从现代教育的观点来说,我们应当审视这种使用频率最高的家庭语言。实际上,只强调“听话”容易培养儿童的奴性,对所有问题缺少个人见解,以致人格扭曲,成为“问题儿童”。 Chinese children are most often asked to be “obedient.” One of the earlier accepted beliefs was “naughty.” Therefore, the biggest drawback of Chinese children is “poor independence.” However, from a modern educational point of view, we should look at the most frequently used family language. In fact, emphasizing “obedience” makes it easy to cultivate children’s slavery and lack personal opinion on all issues, resulting in distorted personality and becoming “problem children.”