在多年的心理咨询工作中,我发现成年后遭遇心理困扰的人有一个共同点:那就是无法接受事实,特别是真实的自我以及自己真实的感觉。一味逃避与自我欺骗渐渐侵蚀了他们的心灵,使他们不可自拔地陷入抑郁、焦虑、无助等负面情绪中。因而,在孩子出生后,人格奠基关键的头几年中,保护孩子原有的真实状态,成为父母们不可忽视的责任。 During many years of psychological counseling, I have found one commonality among those who have experienced psychological distress in adulthood: the unacceptability of facts, especially their true self and their true feelings. Evasion and self-deception gradually eroded their souls, making them insecurely trapped in negative emotions such as depression, anxiety and helplessness. Therefore, in the first few years after the child was born and the foundation of his personality laid down, protecting the true state of the child became a responsibility that parents can not ignore.