你没有义务像患了斯德哥尔摩综合征一样,去拥抱痛苦、讨好痛苦、粉饰痛苦。痛是有用的。在生理上,痛感是最强烈的神经刺激,主要作用就是向大脑提示危险,从而让生物及时避免更严重的伤害。这是生理痛感的作用。那么精神上、心灵上的痛呢?谁没有被这种痛苦困扰过、折磨过呢?这种痛苦又有什么用呢?最常见的一种说法,是“凤凰涅槃”论。凤凰需要浴火重生,痛苦就是一场灵魂的火灾,是让人变得更好的契机。但问题是,它同时 You are not obliged to embrace the pain, suffer pain, and paint the pain, as you did in Stockholm. Pain is useful. Physiologically, pain is the strongest nerve stimulation, the main role is to alert the brain danger, so that creatures in a timely manner to avoid more serious injuries. This is the role of physical pain. So spiritual, spiritual pain? Who has not been troubled by this pain, tortured it? What is the use of this pain? The most common argument is “Phoenix Nirvana ” theory. Phoenix need to rebirth, pain is a soul of the fire, is that people become better opportunities. But the problem is that it is at the same time