碰到问题时往往习惯于先发一通怨气,而很少从问题的实际出发,寻找自身的缺点——这似乎是很多职场女性的通病。心理学认为,人在遭受挫折与不当待遇时,往往会采取消极对抗的态度。抱怨通常由不满和自卑引起,一是希望得到别人的注意与同情,二是掩饰自己的底气不足。这是一种超出正常的“平衡”心理的破坏性心理,在职场里是很讨人嫌的。 When encountering a problem, it is often accustomed to starting with a common grudge, and seldom starting from the reality of the problem to find its own shortcomings - this seems to be common to many workplace women. Psychology believes that when people suffer setbacks and improper treatment, they often adopt a negative attitude toward confrontation. Complaints are usually caused by dissatisfaction and inferiority, one is to get the attention and sympathy of others, and the other is to cover up their lack of confidence. This is a devastating psychology that goes beyond normal “balance” psychology and is dismal in the workplace.