我需要你帮我分担家务、我需要更多自由的时间、我需要更多的钱买衣服……这些问题,很多都是伪问题,它们是一种替代品,是夫妻借由表达在性爱中被伤害了的感受。我国心理学家曾奇峰在论述夫妻关系时曾说过:那些在生活中争论不休、吵起来没完没了的夫妻,看似在争论着现实生活中的对错,实际上,是在无关对错的领域出现了问题。这个无关对错的领域,就是性。可能很多人会立马跳出来反驳:床上那点儿事,还能撼动我对生活的掌控? I need you to help me to share housework, I need more free time, I need more money to buy clothes ... Many of these problems are false, they are a substitute for the couple by expression in sex Was hurt feelings. Zeng Qifeng, a psychologist in China, once said when discussing the relationship between husband and wife: those couples who have endless arguments and endless arguments in their lives seem to be arguing about right and wrong in real life. In fact, they are not related to each other There is a problem in the field. This is not related to the wrong areas, is sex. Many people may immediately jump out to refute: that thing in bed, but also shake my control of life?