“雅量”是文明社会里一个人的不俗追求。它具有化干戈为玉帛、化消极为积极的神奇力量。但实际上它又不是一般意义上的“潇洒”和“豁达”,也不是普通概念的行为方式和情感方式,它与那种“制怒”的提醒语以及“打不还手,骂不还口”式的自律不可同日而语。它是一种修炼,一种境 “Honor” is a good pursuit of a man in a civilized society. It has the power to serve as a source of power, and turns negative into a positive and magical force. But in fact it is not “chic” and “open-minded” in the general sense, nor is it a general concept of behavioral and emotional ways. It is not in the same way as the reminder of “anger” and “ ”The type of self-discipline can not be the same. It is a practice, a kind of environment