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为人父母者总是向孩子提出种种要求,要孩子干什么,不许孩子干什么。但是,父母可曾想过,孩子也会向父母提出许多要求,孩子也希望父母能达到他们的要求的。一位美国学者R·F赫茨为了弄清楚孩子对自己的父母究竟有些什么样的要求,在全世界范围内进行了一次广泛的调查。调查对象是八至十四岁的来自社会各阶层的孩子,调查内容是每人给自己的父母写出十条要求,即要自己的父母怎么做和不要怎样做。遍布五大洲的二十岁个国家十万个孩子参加了这次调查,写出了十万份要求。从这些要求中,大致可归纳为四百一十条,其中最有教育影响的十条是: 一、孩子在场,不要吵架。二、对每个孩子都要给予同样的爱。三、任何时候,都不要对孩子撒谎。四、父母之间要相互谦让,相互谅解。
Parents always make various demands to their children, what they want their children to do and what their children should not do. However, parents may have thought that children will make many demands to parents, and children also hope that parents can meet their demands. An American scholar, R. F Hertz, conducted a worldwide survey to find out exactly what the child asked his parents. The survey was conducted for children aged 8 to 14 from all walks of life in the survey. Each of them asked each of them 10 requirements for their parents, that is, how their parents should do and what not to do. Hundreds of thousands of children aged 20 and over in five continents participated in the survey, writing 100,000 requests. From these requirements, it can be roughly summed up to 410, of which 10 are the most educational ones: 1. Children are present and do not quarrel. Second, for each child to give the same love. Third, at any time, do not lie to your child. Fourth, mutual humility and mutual understanding between parents.