在家庭生活中常有这样的情况:孩子正在兴致勃勃地玩一件什么东西,这时家长出于某种原因把那件东西拿走了,有的孩子哭闹几声就作罢了;而有的孩子却哭闹不止,大有不把东西拿回来誓不罢休的劲头。许多家长都喜欢前一种表现的孩子,认为这样的孩子“乖”“听话”,是好孩子;而觉得后一种孩子太“犟”“不听话”,是不懂事的孩子。其实,从儿童心理学研究成果来看,通常所谓“犟”孩子的自我意识强,好胜心强,并具有一定程度的韧性。如果家长善于观察与利用孩子身上所蕴藏的“闪光点”,适时地加以诱发 In the family life, it is often the case that a child is playing happily with something that the parents have taken away for some reason, and some children make a cry for a while; others Children are more than crying, a lot of things do not take back to take the rest momentum. Many parents like the former children who think they are “good” and “obedient”. They think they are “good children” and “feel obliged” and “not obedient” children. In fact, children psychology research results from the point of view, usually so-called “犟” children’s self-awareness, strong ambition, and has a certain degree of resilience. If parents are good at observing and using the child’s body, the “flash point”, in a timely manner to be induced