“他律”,原本是法律学社会学方面的术语,指的是由外因的规定性促使人遵守一定的社会法律及道德规范,从而使其在一定的范围内行事。这种现象在社会生活中随处可见。如各种法规、纪律及守则等等,对所限定的对象来说都属于“他律”范畴。因为它是一种在一定程度上和一定范围内行之有效的措施与方法,所以也被家长们自觉 “He law” was originally a terminology in sociology of law. It refers to the stipulation of externality that urges people to abide by certain social laws and ethics so that they can act within a certain scope. This phenomenon can be seen everywhere in social life. Such as various laws and regulations, disciplines and codes, etc., belong to the category of “heresy” for the objects they are limited to. Because it is a kind of measures and methods that are effective to a certain extent and to a certain extent, they are also consciously adopted by parents