许多人在恋爱已成定局或在婚后才惊讶地发现,对方怎么竟是这样一个人?当初对他(她)的美好印象竟是一种错误,在两人以前的交往中怎么没发现对方身上的这些缺点。其实,并不是你没看到,而是你不善于归纳总结问题,以致事后悔恨。只要你细心观察,对方既使掩饰得再好,你也能发现其潜伏在人品性格等中的“蛛丝马迹”。看对方交友。“人以群分,物以类聚”,朋友最能看出一个人的层次及生活方式,作为恋人,对方一定会将你介绍给他(她)的朋友。你不妨观察他们都是些什么素质的人,是积极上进事业有成生活有序,还是颓废消沉无所事事,当然,更重要的是他们的品德作风是否端正良好,生活是否充实,不排除一两位朋友可能不那么令人舒服,但朋友的主流应是好的。从其朋友身上你可看出恋人平目的生活圈子,不要说他(她)和他们不一样,从其朋友身上你或许才可看出恋 Many people find it hard to find out after being in love or after marriage that the opposite party was such a person. What was the good impression on him or her in the first place was a mistake. These shortcomings on the body. In fact, not you did not see, but you are not good at summing up the problem, resulting in remorse after the event. As long as you observe carefully, the other side cover up even better, you can find its lurking in the character of the “clues.” See each other friends. “People in groups, things to gather together,” most friends can see a person’s level and lifestyle, as a lover, the other party will introduce you to his (her) friend. You may wish to observe what qualities they are people, is actively engaged in an orderly lifestyle, or decadent depression nothing, of course, more importantly, their style of conduct is correct, life is substantial, do not rule out one or two Friends may not be as good as friends, but friends should be good. From your friends, you can see that your lover lives in a flat life. Do not say that he or she is different from them. You may see love from your friends