在和孩子沟通的过程中,很多家长经常与孩子发生冲突,尤其在孩子青春期的时候,孩子往往有很强的自我意识,很容易产生逆反心理。对此,家长们普遍感觉很头痛。前不久,我在电视台作访谈的时候,有一位家长发来短信:“我对我的女儿真是束手无策,鼓励的话被认为是违心的话,批评的话则被认为伤害她自尊。我该怎么办?” During communication with children, many parents often conflict with their children. Especially when children are adolescent, children often have strong self-awareness and are prone to rebellious mentality. In this regard, parents generally feel very headache. Not long ago, when I was interviewed on television, one of my parents sent a text message: “I was really helpless to my daughter, words of encouragement were considered to be offensive, and critics were supposed to hurt her self-esteem. What should I do?”