编辑同志: 我与张某婚后因性格上的差异已分居数年,双方都很痛苦,也很想早日解除名存实亡的夫妻关系。但我们听说先提出离婚的人在财产分割和子女抚养等方面会吃亏,因此,谁也不想首先向法院起诉离婚。请问:谁先提出离婚谁真的会吃亏吗? Edit Comrade: Zhang and I have been separated for a couple of years because of their differences in personality. Both are very painful and I also want to lift the name of the spouse as soon as possible. However, we have heard that those who first filed for divorce will suffer in the area of ​​property division and child support, so no one wants to prosecute the divorce to the court first. Excuse me: who will first divorce who really suffer?