在我们试图改变孩子的行为时,什么方法用得最多?据统计,是惩罚。这颇有点讽刺性。因为尽管它的运用受到如此偏爱,可实际效果却很差。一位台湾学者经广泛调查后发现,孩子们在受到惩罚后,其反应多为害怕与抗拒,并非产生悔改之意。这倒不是因为惩罚本身有问题,或者说在家庭教育中不能运用。问题在于,我们许多家长不懂得该如何惩罚孩子。要使惩罚获得显著的教育效果,请注意如下几条“惩罚须知”: What is the most used method when we try to change a child’s behavior? According to statistics, it is punishment. This is a bit ironic. Because although its application is so favored, the actual effect is very poor. After extensive investigations, a Taiwanese scholar discovered that when children are punished, their reactions are mostly scared and resistant, not repentance. This is not because punishment itself has problems, or can not be used in family education. The problem is that many of our parents do not know how to punish children. For punishment to obtain significant educational effect, please note the following few “Punishment Instructions ”: