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在现代的三世同堂家庭里,常常会发生“厚小薄老”的现象,如果这种现象不能得到及时纠正,就会错失教育孩子的最佳时机,影响家庭和谐。综观“厚小薄老”错位现象发生的原因,一是现在多数年轻父母工作繁忙,尤其是在大城市生活的人,要为养家糊口努力打拼,往往会把老人接来帮忙看孩子,这种隔代看护很容易造成“厚小薄老”现象。二是新手爸妈刚刚体会到初为人父母的感觉,难免会在感情和物质上投入太多,老人稍不遂孩子的心意,孩子又哭又闹,夫妻俩就可能会埋怨老人。对孩子的所有要求无条件满足,但对老人的需求却疏于过问。三是由于两代人的观念差异,年轻人可能会忽略老人在教育孩子时的观点,
In modern third-generation families, “thin and thin old” often occurs. If this phenomenon can not be corrected in time, it will miss the best time to educate the children and affect family harmony. Looking at the causes of the misplaced phenomenon of “thick, thin and delicate old people”, one is that most young parents are busy with work nowadays, especially those who live in big cities. They must work hard to support their families and often connect the elderly with help to see their children. This kind of inter-generational care is very easy to cause “thin and thin old ” phenomenon. Second, the novice parents have just realized the feeling of being a parent at first, and they will inevitably devote too much emotion and materiality. The old man is not ready for the child’s heart and the child is crying and making trouble. The couple may complain about the elderly. All the requirements of the child are met unconditionally, but the needs of the elderly are neglected. Third, due to the difference in concept between the two generations, young people may neglect the viewpoint of the elderly when educating their children.