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那是我在纽约一家繁忙的饭馆作服务员的第一天。那天的工作已接近尾声，我的工作帽却不见了，而我的脚也在隐隐作痛。装满食物的盘子在手里似乎越来越重。又累又失望，我感到似乎做什么都不对。当我为一个有几个孩子的家庭填写账单时（那几个孩子一次次地调换冰激凌），我真想走开不管他们了。就在这时，孩子的父亲笑着给了我些小费。“非常好，”他说道，“你把我们照顾得很好。”这时，我突然觉得所有的疲劳都消失了。我也朝他笑了笑。后来，当经理问我对第一天的工作感觉如何时，我回答说：“很好！”那位父亲的几句赞美真的改变了一切。
赞美就像阳光照耀着人类的灵魂，没有它，我们无法成长。然而，我们当中的许多人都惯于给别人冷酷的批评，却不愿意给我们的同伴以赞美的阳光。为什么一句赞美的话竟能带来如此的快乐？
摘译自 Praising
It was the end of my first day as a waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone away, and my feet hurt. The loaded1 plates I carried seemed heavier and heavier. Tired and discouraged, I didn’t seem able to do anything right. As I made out a check for a family with several children (who had changed their ice-cream order a dozen times), I was ready to stop. Then the father smiled at me as he handed me my tip.“Well done,” he said,“you’ve looked after us really well.”
Suddenly my tiredness disappeared. I smiled back, and later, when the manager asked me how I’d liked my first day, I said, “Fine!” Those few words of praise had changed everything.
Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit, we cannot grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind ofcriticism2, we are unwilling to give our fellows the warm sunshine of praise. Why one word of praise can bring such pleasure?
赞美就像阳光照耀着人类的灵魂，没有它，我们无法成长。然而，我们当中的许多人都惯于给别人冷酷的批评，却不愿意给我们的同伴以赞美的阳光。为什么一句赞美的话竟能带来如此的快乐？
摘译自 Praising
It was the end of my first day as a waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone away, and my feet hurt. The loaded1 plates I carried seemed heavier and heavier. Tired and discouraged, I didn’t seem able to do anything right. As I made out a check for a family with several children (who had changed their ice-cream order a dozen times), I was ready to stop. Then the father smiled at me as he handed me my tip.“Well done,” he said,“you’ve looked after us really well.”
Suddenly my tiredness disappeared. I smiled back, and later, when the manager asked me how I’d liked my first day, I said, “Fine!” Those few words of praise had changed everything.
Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit, we cannot grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind ofcriticism2, we are unwilling to give our fellows the warm sunshine of praise. Why one word of praise can bring such pleasure?