常常听婆媳在家里、外面大倒苦水:婆婆说:“老了老了本想享几天儿孙绕膝的清福,却还得继续为小辈们‘扛活’”、“儿媳妇太娇气,快30岁了还把自己当小姑娘看”;媳妇却说:“到底不是婆婆亲生的,就是隔着一层心”、“早知道婆婆不帮看孩子,何必这么早添‘累赘’”。婆媳双方怨言这么多,也在情理之中:老人们为了生活奔波了几十年,眼见一桩桩、一件件心事都已达成所愿,想趁退休后自己清手利脚的时候,做点儿自己喜欢的事,比如再发挥余热、出去见见世面、上老年人大学圆个大学梦……而儿女们此时正是干事业的黄金期,面对事业与家庭“一根蜡烛两头烧”的窘境,非常希望老人能再多帮扶一把……那么,面对这个生活中不可回避的问题,到底婆婆有没有义务当“勤务兵”?媳妇又希望婆婆怎样呵护才会感恩呢? Often listen to law-abiding at home, the outside Daodingshui: mother-in-law said: “The old man wanted to enjoy a few days around the knee of the Qing Fu, but still have to continue to work for the younger ’s”, “ Frivolous, almost 30-year-old also see myself as a girl to see ”; wife said:“ In the end is not the mother-in-law, that is separated by a layer of heart ”,“ Early know that her mother does not help children, why so early Tim ’burden’”. Mother and daughter both complain so much, but also reasonable: the elderly people to run around for decades, saw one pile, one thing has been achieved, and want to take advantage of retirement after their own hands, doing Click on your favorite things, such as re-exerting the heat, go out to see the world, the University of the University Round University Dream ... ... and children at this time is the golden age of doing business, in the face of career and family “a candle Two burned ”dilemma, very much hope that the elderly can help one more ...... So, in the face of this unavoidable problem in life, in the end there is no obligation to her mother when “ daughter ”? Will be grateful?