市井间有一句戏言,说是“为娘勤快,其女必懒”。对它细细推敲,觉得此番戏言并非毫无道理。它至少可以启发我们思考一个存在于“四合院”中的既简单又复杂、既平常又重大的问题,即家长究竟应该如何向孩子提供服务?纵观一个家庭的发展,在通常情况下,其中前后会发生两次历史性的服务行为:前一次是在孩子未成年时,由家长替孩子提供的;后一次是当父母年老失去劳动能力后,由子女向父母提供的。这前后两次服 There is a joke between the marketplace, said to be “diligent mother, daughters will be lazy ”. It carefully scrutiny, think this joke is not unreasonable. At a minimum, it inspires us to think of a simple yet complex, common and significant problem that exists in the “courtyard”, ie, how should parents provide services to their children? Looking at the development of a family, under normal circumstances, There are two historical service activities before and after: the first is when the child is young and the child is provided by the child; the second is when the parents are old and old and lose the ability to work, provided by their children to their parents. This service twice before and after