问:教育孩子时,我常对孩子说:“你看,你们班上的某某同学上课用心听讲,作业认真,考试成绩也好,你怎么不向他学习?”但是,孩子不听我这一套,反而拿比他更差的同学来堵我的嘴:“你咋不看看我同桌,他不是比我更差吗?这次考试他才考了64分。”每次,孩子都不拿比自己强的同学与之对比。我就觉得奇怪了,这孩子咋就“比弱不比强”呢?何静答:你说的这种现象很有代表性, Q: When I was educating a child, I often said to my children: “You see, certain classmates in your class attend attentively in class, earnestly study hard and test scores, how do you not learn from him?” However, children do not listen My set, but take worse than his classmate to plug my mouth: “You do not see me at the same table, he is not worse than me? He took the exam 64 points.” “ Each time, children do not compare themselves with their classmates. I feel strange, the child ye ye ”than weak?" He Jing answer: you say this phenomenon is very representative,