我们并非生活在真空中,我们总是很难避免“依赖别人的看法来替自己打分数”。我们甚至认为,人际关系的成败,几乎都是操控在别人手里,自己很难维持独立自主性。 事实真是如此吗?其实,人际关系的好坏,症结完全出在自己身上。相信你也听过这样的例子:一个人官越大, We are not living in a vacuum, and it is always hard to avoid “relying on the opinions of others to score ourselves.” We even think that the success or failure of interpersonal relationships is almost always controlled by others and that it is very difficult for them to maintain their independence and autonomy. In fact, is it true? In fact, the quality of interpersonal relationships, the crux of the problem completely on themselves. I believe you have heard such an example: a larger official,