我们动不动就跟别人比,而且无所不比,比成绩、比结果、比地位、比职称、比权势、比财富等等,不一而足。结果无非有两种:一种是自己强于别人,一种是自己弱于别人。前者往往使我们变得愉悦、得意,甚至骄傲起来;后者往往使我们变得不快、郁闷,甚至燃起嫉恨之火。也就是说,不管哪种结果,都会让我们变得不平静。最可怕的是,在跟人比较中,我们丢失了自己。范仲淹说:“不以物喜,不以己悲。”如果总喜欢跟人比较,这种境界就很难达到。那么,我们到麻该怎么做呢?在我看来,如果非要比较的话,那就跟自 We are always at odds with others, and more than nothing, than scores, than the results, than the status, more than the title, more powerful than the wealth and so on. The result is nothing more than two: one is stronger than others, one is weaker than others. The former tend to make us happy, proud and even proud; the latter tend to make us unhappy, depressing, and even ignite the fire of jealousy. In other words, no matter what kind of result, will make us become not calm. The most horrible thing is, in comparison, we have lost ourselves. Fan Zhongyan said: “If you do not like things, not to be sad. ” If you like to compare with people, this state is difficult to achieve. Well, what should we do to Ma? In my opinion, if we have to compare,