就算是最慈爱、最体贴的母亲,有时候也会说出不该说的话。当然,做母亲的不必为她们对子女所说的每一字句担心。母亲每天都说上千句话,在18年中说了千百万句,偶尔说上一两句不该说的话,并不是不可挽救的大灾难。不过纽约“难缠儿童中心”的医师杜里奇说:会造成伤害的是一再发生的模式。以下9种是“母亲时常有,而专家认为最好避免”的说话模式。 1.“看看你哥哥多听话!”和其他孩子相比较固然可以说明你想要孩子做的行为,但却不是鼓励孩子的良方。心理分析家说,孩子的自尊不应基于外在因素,而应发自内在,例如孩子在学溜冰时,是不是好选手并不 Even the most beloved, thoughtful mothers, sometimes say something that should not be said. Of course, mothers do not have to worry about every word they say about their children. My mother said a thousand words every day, saying millions of sentences in 18 years. Occasionally, saying one or two sentences should not be said is not an irretrievable catastrophe. But Dr Doric, a physician in New York’s Center for Tough Kids, said the pattern of injuries that can occur is recurring. The following nine kinds of “mothers often, and experts believe it best to avoid” mode of speaking. 1. “Look at your brother more obedient!” Compared with other children, of course, can explain what you want your child to do, but not to encourage children’s recipe. Psychological analysts say that children’s self-esteem should not be based on external factors, but should be from the inside, such as children learn ice skating is not a good player does not