心理学研究表明，父母离异和离异前的争吵都会给孩子的心灵造成伤害。但离异事件本身给孩子造成的伤害，早在夫妻离异之前的争吵状态中便已形成了。离异不过是这种争吵状态的结果而已。两者相比，后者对孩子的消极影响更大。当然，离异对于孩子毕竟不是件好事情。那么怎样才能 Psychological studies show that parental divorce and quarrel before the divorce will hurt the child’s soul. However, the divorce incident itself caused harm to children, as early as the quarrel between the couple divorced already formed. Divorce is only the result of this quarrel. The latter have a greater negative impact on children than both. Of course, divorce is not a good thing for children after all. So how can we