吵架,是孩子们行为关系中常见的事。家长们处理孩子吵架的方式,一般有退避型的,叫自己孩子不与别人玩;有保护型的,责怪别人的孩子欺负自己的孩子;有报复型的,教唆孩子以骂还骂;有大度型的,只怪自己的孩子不好。不论是何种,人们总把孩子的吵架看作是不好的事情。其实,这几种做法都是不恰当的。社会学家认为,吵架是儿童成长过程中的“必修课”。孩子们在一起玩耍、争吵,然后又重归于好的过程中,正是认识自己的能力、体力、智力,切身体验自己和别人的关系,学会申辩自己的主张,提高语言应用的能力,并逐渐掌握相互合作、互相忍让、控制自己、帮助别人的能力,从而不断积累经验,茁壮成长的过程。因此, Arguing is a common occurrence in children’s behavioral relationships. Parents deal with the way children quarrel, generally retreat-type, called their children do not play with others; a protective type, blame others for bullying their children; retaliatory, abetting children to curse also curse; Degree, blame their children is not good. No matter what, people always think of children’s quarrel as a bad thing. In fact, these practices are not appropriate. Sociologists believe that quarrel is “compulsory ” in the process of children’s growth. Children play together, quarrel, and then return to the good process, it is to recognize their own abilities, physical strength, intelligence, personal experience of their own and others, learn to defend their own ideas, improve language skills, and gradually Master the process of mutual cooperation, mutual tolerance, control oneself, help others ability, thus continue to accumulate experience and thrive. therefore,