挫折教育是为了教孩子学会应付挫折事件,培养孩子的坚强意志,提高耐挫力。适度的挫折,有利于耐挫力的培养,但挫折强度太大,或受挫的频率太高,超过孩子的承受力,则适得其反,将会造成孩子的自卑感,使孩子畏惧挫折,遇事不敢去做,变得缩手缩脚。有些孩子甚至会由此变得冷漠、忧郁、情绪过度紧张。所以,我们必须要注意孩子的可接受性,避免不必要的挫折。不切合实际的期望“我的儿子应该成为画家。”“我的女儿将来是钢琴家。”“弹钢琴、画画、跳舞、英语,我女儿应该样样都学,什么也不能落在别人后面。”菲菲周末比平时要忙,假期比平时更忙。她刚刚上一年级,每天作业一大堆,周末两天安排得很满,星期六上午学画画,下午学英语。星期日上午学电脑,下午弹钢琴。菲菲感到太累、太吃力,整天头晕脑胀。 Setback education is to teach children to learn to deal with setbacks, develop their strong will to improve resistance to frustration. Moderate setbacks, conducive to the development of resistance to frustration, but the setback strength is too high, or setback frequency is too high, more than the child’s tolerance, it is counterproductive, will cause the child’s inferiority complex, so that children fear setbacks, failing Dare to do, have become contracted. Some children even become apathetic, melancholy, emotionally over-stressed. Therefore, we must pay attention to the acceptability of children and avoid unnecessary setbacks. Unrealistic expectations “My son should be an artist.” “My daughter is a pianist in the future.” “Playing the piano, painting, dancing, English, my daughter should learn everything and what Can not fall behind others. ”" Fifi weekend busy than usual, the holidays are more busy than usual. She has just finished the first grade, has a lot of homework every day, arranged very well for two days on weekends, draws on the morning of Saturday morning, and learns English in the afternoon. Study computers on Sunday morning and play piano in the afternoon. Fifi feels tired, too tired, dizzy all day long.