《非诚勿扰》中让人印象深刻的是一个40岁的台湾男人的VCR。他说:“建议乐嘉老师今后说话不要总用‘一定’‘绝对’等极端的词句,最好用‘比较’啊之类的词。”那段视频刚一放完,乐嘉就猴急地以“老师”的口吻教育起这位嘉宾来。有气度,而不露筋骨,有自信,而不见张狂。中华文化向来弘扬“极高明而道中庸”。有气度的人,其实一般不说那种特别满的话,不说那种真理在握的话。现在的人心气浮躁,好像每个人都掌握了真理,说得那么绝对。殊不知,克制里面有一种优雅和美,话语方式里何尝不是一种文化的气度?语言是有表情的,气壮山河,实则大而无当,表意 What’s impressive about “If You Are the One” is the VCR of a 40-year-old Taiwanese man. He said: “It is suggested that teachers do not always use extreme words such as ’must’ and ’absolute’ in future. It is better to use the words ’more’ or something like that.” “ Hurry to ”teacher “ tone to educate the guests come. Be tolerant, without bones, confident, but not insanity. Chinese culture has always been promoting ”very elegant and Taoism ". In fact, in general people do not say that kind of particularly full of words, do not say that kind of truth in the grip of the words. Now people are impetuous, as if everyone has mastered the truth, put it so absolute. As everyone knows, restraint there is a kind of elegance and beauty, discourse style is not a kind of cultural tolerance? Language is expressive, magnificent, but in reality,