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Scene 4From the movie Garfield
剧情简介：忌妒心燃起的加菲猫赶走了主人乔恩从女兽医丽兹处接回的小狗欧弟。这可害惨了可怜的乔恩，他生怕被丽兹知道此事而让他的苦心追求付之东流。谁知正在他手足无措之时，丽兹却登门造访了。生性憨厚的乔恩面对美丽的丽兹支支吾吾、欲言又止，丽兹却破天荒地向他吐露爱意，让他霎时阵脚大乱……
Jon: Hi. WhWhat are you doing here?
Liz: We’re having dinner, remember?
Jon: Right! R…Dinner. Th…The two of us. Tonight. Of course.
Liz: ①Shall I come in?
Jon: Yeah! Yeah, ②come on in. Uh, you know, uh, Liz, ③I have a confession. Uh, uh, it’s not really a confession. It’s more of an 1)admission. It’s a . You know what it is? It’s like a, uh . It’s like a 2)declaration. I have a…a…d….
Liz: I love it when you do that.
Jon: Do what?
Liz: You know. ④Trip over yourself. It’s cute. It’s one of the reasons I had a crush on you in high school.
Jon: You had a crush on me?
Liz: Yeah. I thought you were really cute, decent. Not like all those other jerks.
Jon: ⑤I don’t believe it. I…l had a crush on you too.
Liz: Isn’t that funny?
Jon: Yeah. ⑥Hilarious.
Liz: So, um, what’s your confession, admission, declaration?
Jon: Actually, um…l forgot about our dinner. [Chuckles] Yeah.
Liz: [Laughs] Oh, that’s OK. You know, I can…l can go.
Jon: No. No, I’ml’m glad you’re here. Let me just, uh, get my jacket, and then we’dl go.
乔恩：嗨！你……你来干嘛？
丽兹：我们约好一起吃晚饭的，不记得了？
乔恩：对喔！晚饭，我们两个一起。就是今晚，没错。
丽兹：我能进去吗？
乔恩：当然，请进。呃，丽兹，我得坦白一件事。呃，呃，其实也不算啦，比较像是招供。是这样的……你知道吗？其实呢，呃，更像个声明。我有个……
丽兹：我很喜欢你这样。
乔恩：我怎样？
丽兹：你知道，吞吞吐吐得不行。很可爱。这就是我高中时暗恋上你的原因之一。
乔恩：你暗恋过我？
丽兹：是啊，我觉得你很可爱，很正派，不像其他那些混蛋。
乔恩：我真不敢相信。我……我高中时也暗恋过你。
丽兹：那挺有趣啊，不是吗？
乔恩：是啊！真搞笑。
丽兹：对了，那么，你要坦白、招供、声明什么？
乔恩：实际上呢，呃……我忘了我们今天晚餐的约定了，[咯咯地笑] 就是这样。
丽兹：[大笑] 哦，没关系，那我就回去咯。
乔恩：不，不，我……我很高兴你能来。只须让我，呃……让我拿件外套，我们这就出发。
Smart Sentences
① Shall I come in? 我可以进去吗？
Shall I : a formal and polite way to ask for permission（问对方意愿的正式表达方式），现口语中多用Can I ?
e.g. Shall I go with you?（我可以与你一起去吗？）
② Come on in. 快进来。
come on in: used to encourage someone to come in without hesitation（鼓励他人进来，不必犹豫），多用来表达说话者的热情。
e.g. Come on in, Nancy. We’re been waiting for you.（南希，快进来。我们已经在等你了。）
③ I have a confession. 我得坦白一件事。
confession: the act of admitting a feeling or sth. you did（承认感受的存在或你做过的事）
e.g. I have a confession as to what happened last week. （关于上周发生的事，我得坦白。）
④ Trip over yourself. 说话结巴。
trip: can’t talk smoothly trip over your tongue（说话结巴，舌头打结）
e.g. He often gets so drunk his tongue trips.（他喝酒常常喝到舌头打结。）
⑤ I don’t believe it. 我不敢相信。
I don’t believe it: it’s so incredible that it’s hard for me to conceive it（事情太不可思议，很难让我相信）
Similar expressions: I can’t believe it. / It’s unbelievable.
⑥ Hilarious. 真搞笑。
Hilarious: things are very funny and make you laugh.（事情很有趣，让人发笑。）
Similar expressions: Very funny. / Highly amusing.
The Art of Communicating Effectively 有效沟通的艺术
Communication is a skill that must be learned like any others. Most of us are fortunate enough to be born with the basic capacity to speak and hear, but to learn the advanced art of communicating requires much more. It demands that you are clear about your own thoughts and feelings, that you are willing to tell the truth about them, that you have the skill to express them effectively and that you have the capacity to listen to your partner’s truth without defensiveness or judgment.
There are ten basic steps you can follow to communicate effectively. These steps will enable you to get your message across clearly, whether requesting something trivial or monumental[有重要意义的] from your partner, expressing anger or minor[轻微的] irritation[怒气], or pronouncing an emotion or simple pleasure. The intensity of the message is irrelevant[无关的], since these steps apply to any exchange of information you wish to make.
THE TEN STEPS:
1. Know what you want to communicate. 知道自己想要沟通什么
Sort out what exactly you want to say to someone, so that you do not get stuck in the nonwords (“um,”“hmm,”“uh”“well”) and dilute[使变弱] your message.
2. Know what outcome you want from the conversation. 清楚想要通过沟通达成的结果
You need to know if your aim is to deliver information, get information, explore options, or create action. Knowing the purpose and desired outcome of the communication will keep you aligned[成一线] with your message.
3. Choose the right time and place. 选择合适的时间和场合
So often, people rush to deliver their message without first asking if the other person is in the frame of mind to hear it. Be sure to approach your partner when he or she has the time and the capacity to listen and ensure that the environment is appropriate.
4. Release the emotion surrounding the message. 释放信息附带的情绪
This will allow you to be more in control of what you want to say. Find some way to release the charge (vent[发泄] to a friend, write it out, exercise, go to a recycling center[垃圾回收中心] and smash[打碎] glass, etc.) so that you can allow the recipient to focus on the content of what you are saying rather than your emotion.
5. Set the stage. 设定沟通环境
Lay your groundwork[根基]. Let the recipient know that the purpose of your communication is to put him or her in the right frame of mind. If appropriate, share your feelings about addressing this particular communication. For example, “I feel uncomfortable addressing this, however, I need to ask you something…”
6. Speak from your feelings (rather than judgments). 以个人感受（而不是判断）的角度发话
This will keep you focused on your truth and still allow you to communicate with love. Messages delivered with sincerity generally command more attention and respect.
7. Deliver your message in syntax and language that the recipient can understand. 以对方能够理解的语言句法来表达
Present your reality in a manner that makes sense to the other person, one he or she can relate to. If you are delivering information or expressing a thought, present it as a statement. If you require input or information, pose it as a question. Confusing the two blurs[使模糊] the issue and puzzles[使困惑] the recipient as to what is expected of him or her.
8. Ask for confirmation, clarification, and feedback. 征求确认、澄清和反馈信息
This will open the dialogue between you and your recipient and show you that your message was clearly delivered.
9. Switch roles as necessary. 在必要时刻转换角色
After you ask for feedback, you need to then move from “ommunicator”to “recipient”so that the other person can communicate his or her reality to you.
10. Obtain closure. 结案陈词
Acknowledge the agree-upon outcome and solidify[巩固] how it will be deployed[开展] by each person.
剧情简介：忌妒心燃起的加菲猫赶走了主人乔恩从女兽医丽兹处接回的小狗欧弟。这可害惨了可怜的乔恩，他生怕被丽兹知道此事而让他的苦心追求付之东流。谁知正在他手足无措之时，丽兹却登门造访了。生性憨厚的乔恩面对美丽的丽兹支支吾吾、欲言又止，丽兹却破天荒地向他吐露爱意，让他霎时阵脚大乱……
Jon: Hi. WhWhat are you doing here?
Liz: We’re having dinner, remember?
Jon: Right! R…Dinner. Th…The two of us. Tonight. Of course.
Liz: ①Shall I come in?
Jon: Yeah! Yeah, ②come on in. Uh, you know, uh, Liz, ③I have a confession. Uh, uh, it’s not really a confession. It’s more of an 1)admission. It’s a . You know what it is? It’s like a, uh . It’s like a 2)declaration. I have a…a…d….
Liz: I love it when you do that.
Jon: Do what?
Liz: You know. ④Trip over yourself. It’s cute. It’s one of the reasons I had a crush on you in high school.
Jon: You had a crush on me?
Liz: Yeah. I thought you were really cute, decent. Not like all those other jerks.
Jon: ⑤I don’t believe it. I…l had a crush on you too.
Liz: Isn’t that funny?
Jon: Yeah. ⑥Hilarious.
Liz: So, um, what’s your confession, admission, declaration?
Jon: Actually, um…l forgot about our dinner. [Chuckles] Yeah.
Liz: [Laughs] Oh, that’s OK. You know, I can…l can go.
Jon: No. No, I’ml’m glad you’re here. Let me just, uh, get my jacket, and then we’dl go.
乔恩：嗨！你……你来干嘛？
丽兹：我们约好一起吃晚饭的，不记得了？
乔恩：对喔！晚饭，我们两个一起。就是今晚，没错。
丽兹：我能进去吗？
乔恩：当然，请进。呃，丽兹，我得坦白一件事。呃，呃，其实也不算啦，比较像是招供。是这样的……你知道吗？其实呢，呃，更像个声明。我有个……
丽兹：我很喜欢你这样。
乔恩：我怎样？
丽兹：你知道，吞吞吐吐得不行。很可爱。这就是我高中时暗恋上你的原因之一。
乔恩：你暗恋过我？
丽兹：是啊，我觉得你很可爱，很正派，不像其他那些混蛋。
乔恩：我真不敢相信。我……我高中时也暗恋过你。
丽兹：那挺有趣啊，不是吗？
乔恩：是啊！真搞笑。
丽兹：对了，那么，你要坦白、招供、声明什么？
乔恩：实际上呢，呃……我忘了我们今天晚餐的约定了，[咯咯地笑] 就是这样。
丽兹：[大笑] 哦，没关系，那我就回去咯。
乔恩：不，不，我……我很高兴你能来。只须让我，呃……让我拿件外套，我们这就出发。
Smart Sentences
① Shall I come in? 我可以进去吗？
Shall I : a formal and polite way to ask for permission（问对方意愿的正式表达方式），现口语中多用Can I ?
e.g. Shall I go with you?（我可以与你一起去吗？）
② Come on in. 快进来。
come on in: used to encourage someone to come in without hesitation（鼓励他人进来，不必犹豫），多用来表达说话者的热情。
e.g. Come on in, Nancy. We’re been waiting for you.（南希，快进来。我们已经在等你了。）
③ I have a confession. 我得坦白一件事。
confession: the act of admitting a feeling or sth. you did（承认感受的存在或你做过的事）
e.g. I have a confession as to what happened last week. （关于上周发生的事，我得坦白。）
④ Trip over yourself. 说话结巴。
trip: can’t talk smoothly trip over your tongue（说话结巴，舌头打结）
e.g. He often gets so drunk his tongue trips.（他喝酒常常喝到舌头打结。）
⑤ I don’t believe it. 我不敢相信。
I don’t believe it: it’s so incredible that it’s hard for me to conceive it（事情太不可思议，很难让我相信）
Similar expressions: I can’t believe it. / It’s unbelievable.
⑥ Hilarious. 真搞笑。
Hilarious: things are very funny and make you laugh.（事情很有趣，让人发笑。）
Similar expressions: Very funny. / Highly amusing.
The Art of Communicating Effectively 有效沟通的艺术
Communication is a skill that must be learned like any others. Most of us are fortunate enough to be born with the basic capacity to speak and hear, but to learn the advanced art of communicating requires much more. It demands that you are clear about your own thoughts and feelings, that you are willing to tell the truth about them, that you have the skill to express them effectively and that you have the capacity to listen to your partner’s truth without defensiveness or judgment.
There are ten basic steps you can follow to communicate effectively. These steps will enable you to get your message across clearly, whether requesting something trivial or monumental[有重要意义的] from your partner, expressing anger or minor[轻微的] irritation[怒气], or pronouncing an emotion or simple pleasure. The intensity of the message is irrelevant[无关的], since these steps apply to any exchange of information you wish to make.
THE TEN STEPS:
1. Know what you want to communicate. 知道自己想要沟通什么
Sort out what exactly you want to say to someone, so that you do not get stuck in the nonwords (“um,”“hmm,”“uh”“well”) and dilute[使变弱] your message.
2. Know what outcome you want from the conversation. 清楚想要通过沟通达成的结果
You need to know if your aim is to deliver information, get information, explore options, or create action. Knowing the purpose and desired outcome of the communication will keep you aligned[成一线] with your message.
3. Choose the right time and place. 选择合适的时间和场合
So often, people rush to deliver their message without first asking if the other person is in the frame of mind to hear it. Be sure to approach your partner when he or she has the time and the capacity to listen and ensure that the environment is appropriate.
4. Release the emotion surrounding the message. 释放信息附带的情绪
This will allow you to be more in control of what you want to say. Find some way to release the charge (vent[发泄] to a friend, write it out, exercise, go to a recycling center[垃圾回收中心] and smash[打碎] glass, etc.) so that you can allow the recipient to focus on the content of what you are saying rather than your emotion.
5. Set the stage. 设定沟通环境
Lay your groundwork[根基]. Let the recipient know that the purpose of your communication is to put him or her in the right frame of mind. If appropriate, share your feelings about addressing this particular communication. For example, “I feel uncomfortable addressing this, however, I need to ask you something…”
6. Speak from your feelings (rather than judgments). 以个人感受（而不是判断）的角度发话
This will keep you focused on your truth and still allow you to communicate with love. Messages delivered with sincerity generally command more attention and respect.
7. Deliver your message in syntax and language that the recipient can understand. 以对方能够理解的语言句法来表达
Present your reality in a manner that makes sense to the other person, one he or she can relate to. If you are delivering information or expressing a thought, present it as a statement. If you require input or information, pose it as a question. Confusing the two blurs[使模糊] the issue and puzzles[使困惑] the recipient as to what is expected of him or her.
8. Ask for confirmation, clarification, and feedback. 征求确认、澄清和反馈信息
This will open the dialogue between you and your recipient and show you that your message was clearly delivered.
9. Switch roles as necessary. 在必要时刻转换角色
After you ask for feedback, you need to then move from “ommunicator”to “recipient”so that the other person can communicate his or her reality to you.
10. Obtain closure. 结案陈词
Acknowledge the agree-upon outcome and solidify[巩固] how it will be deployed[开展] by each person.